“My father had taught me to be nice first, because you can always be mean later, but once you’ve been mean to someone, they won’t believe the nice anymore. So be nice, be nice, until it’s time to stop being nice, then destroy them.”—Laurell K. Hamilton
“I am so thirsty for the marvelous that only the marvelous has power over me. Anything I can not transform into something marvelous, I let go. Reality doesn’t impress me. I only believe in intoxication, in ecstasy, and when ordinary life shackles me, I escape, one way or another. No more walls.”—Anaïs Nin
“Feeling confident - or pretending that you feel confident - is necessary to reach for opportunities. It’s a cliche, but opportunities are rarely offered’ they’re seized…Given how fast the world moves today, grabbing opportunities is more important than ever.”—
Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg
I was introduced to this book at the perfect time. So many females aren’t aware of the power that they can aspire to grasp in their careers. More women need to realize that we can’t continue to allow the men to hold primary statuses and the highest positions. We must strive to reach for the same things they [men] have been taught to reach for. Its not that dangerous to break from societal norms while breaking into “the boys clubs”. You can still be a woman, work to become powerful, be talented to sustain power and happiness, be well liked by other men and women, be loved and admired, all whilst still holding on to what essentially makes you a woman.
1. Never use a metaphor, simile or other figure of speech which are used to seeing in print.
2. Never use a long word where a short one will do.
3. If it is possible to cut a word out, always cut it out.
4. Never use the passive where you can use the active.
5. Never use a foreign phrase, a scientific word or a jargon word if you can think of an everyday English equivalent. (I’m charmed by his example: use “snapdragon,” not “antirrhinum.” Snapdragon is so much nicer.)
6. Break any of these rules sooner than say anything outright barbarous.
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“An invitation to innovation, Radiant Orchid encourages expanded creativity and originality, which is increasingly valued in today’s society. An enchanting harmony of fuchsia, purple and pink undertones, Radiant Orchid inspires confidence and emanates great joy, love and health. It is a captivating purple, one that draws you in with its beguiling charm” said Leatrice Eiseman, executive director of the Pantone Color Institute®.
For more than a decade, Pantone’s Color of the Year has influenced product development and purchasing decisions in multiple industries, including fashion, home and industrial design, as well as product packaging and graphic design.
I’m not mad at this courageous and warm shade of purple. Radiant Orchid has me excited. I love this colour.
“Approaching and befriending women who I identify as smart and powerful (sometimes actively pursuing them, as with any other crush) has been a major revelation of my adult life. First, there’s the associative property of awesomeness: People know you by the company you keep. I like knowing that my friends are so professionally supportive that when they get a promotion, it’s like a boost for my résumé, too, because we share a network and don’t compete for contacts. I want the strongest, happiest, smartest women in my corner, pushing me to negotiate for more money, telling me to drop men who make me feel bad about myself, and responding to my outfit selfies from a place of love and stylishness, not competition and body-snarking.”—Shine Theory: Why Powerful Women Make the Greatest Friends by Ann Friedman (via The Cut)
1. Does that make sense? Many women end their statements with,“Does that make sense?” or “Do you know what I mean?”. We do this because we want to make sure we were understood, but this phrasing suggests you think you were incoherent. Instead, ask your listeners, “What are your thoughts?” or say, “Let me know if you have questions about this” instead of the undermining, “Did that make sense?”
2. Just “I just want to check in and see…” “I’m just concerned that…” We insert justs because we’re worried about coming on too strong, but they make the speaker sound defensive, a little whiny and tentative. Drop ‘em!
3. Actually “I actually think…” “I actually have a question.” Those actuallys make it sound like you are surprised that you have a question or that you disagree!”
4. Sorry, but… “Sorry to bother you but…” “Sorry if this is a silly question, but…” Don’t apologize for taking up space, or for having something to say.”
5. Just a minute and Just a little bit “I’d like to take just a few minutes of your time” or “I’d like to tell you a little bit about our new product.” Sure, be efficient and succinct — and don’t take up more time that you need — but drop the apologetic words about infringing on another person’s time. What you have to share is important and worthwhile; convey that, instead.”
6. Kind of and Almost “I almost think we should go a different direction.” “I kind of think the report should be reorganized this way.” We tend to use these words when we’re unsure about our ideas or worried about offending others, but these qualifiers don’t really help with that; they just make our words less powerful.”
7. Undermining qualifiers “I’m just thinking off the top of my head, but…” or “You all have been thinking about this a lot longer than I have, but…” or “I’m no expert, but…” Don’t tell people why what you are about to say is likely to be wrong. Lead with confidence in the knowledge that your ideas and insights matter.”
8. Uptalk Yep, you know all about this one, but it’s important to include. In the English language, we raise our pitch at the end of yes/no questions. But, when you raise your pitch at the end of a statement, it makes you sound tentative, questioning, like you are unsure about what you are saying. Start paying attention to lowering your tone at the end of your statements — chances are good that you do it even when you’re not uncertain.”
9. Rushing and piling on the words When we don’t feel we have the right to take up space in a meeting or conversation, we tend to rush through our words. We also tend to pile up phrases into one long string — instead of using concise sentences with clear endings. Short sentences and brief pauses between those sentences connote confidence and a sense of comfort in the role of speaker. They also allow the listener to absorb what you are saying and give you a moment to gather a deep breath and collect your thoughts. Punctuate and pause.”
10. Shrinking your space This isn’t about speech patterns, but it does change the way people react to what you’re saying. Notice if the way you sit or stand shrinks the amount of physical space you are taking up. Take up room, uncross your hands or arms, sit tall, and make eye contact. Basically, be noticed.
“At the end of their relationship she asked if they could still remain friends. His face stayed expressionless until he said “No. Because we put friends in boxes. You see them once in a while, or even a lot, but still they have their box in your life, their specific place. Their *category.* That’s one of the great things about being someone’s love— you have no box in their life because you’re part of all their boxes. You’re their friend, their lover, their confidante— all those things. I don’t want to be put in one of your boxes and I don’t want to shrink you to fit into one of mine.”—Jonathan Carroll (via bobbyism)
Phillip Lim is one of my favorite designers. So naturally when I first heard word of the Phillip Lim for Target collection, I lost a little piece of my mind.
Remember the highly coveted Pashli bag from the 3.1 collection everyone went nuts for last Fall? Well guess what, the Target collection will give those of us who don’t have $850 bag budgets a taste of what Phillip Lim has to offer in the fashion world … for a fraction of the price!
While the prices of all of the bags aren’t available yet, they are said to range from $35-$55 each. Compare that to the $550-$1300 range of his main designer handbag collection. Serious steal right?
Get an inside look below of every tote, bag, and satchel from the Philip Lim for Target collection to be launched in stores September 15th.
Tote Bag: $55
Tote Bag: $55(One of my favs!)
Mini Satchel: $35(Another fav!)
Bag from the collection: Price not listed
Another bag from the collection: Price not listed (love this one too!)
Drawstring Carry-All Bag: $50
Pack-It-All-In Bag: $35 (great for travel)
Valise Bag: $45(Another great option for light travel)
I am REALLY looking forward to this collection! Not only are they reasonably priced, but from the look of the photos alone they look like decent quality. The colors are perfect for Fall and Winter and the mini yellow satchel can carry you right on over to Spring!
“Life can be a lot broader than that when you realize one simple thing, and that’s that everything around us that we call life was made up by people that are no smarter than you.”—the incomparable, Steve Jobs
“This is an important lesson to remember when you’re having a bad day, a bad month, or a shitty year. Things will change: you won’t feel this way forever. And anyway, sometimes the hardest lessons to learn are the ones your soul needs most. I believe you can’t feel real joy unless you’ve felt heartache. You can’t have a sense of victory unless you know what it means to fail. You can’t know what it’s like to feel holy until you know what it’s like to feel really fucking evil. And you can’t be birthed again until you’ve died.”—Kelly Cutrone (via bobbyism)